We look to a dictionary when we want a definition of a word.  But where do we look when we want to define ourselves?

We usually only realize what our good and bad qualities are when we see how others react to us.

We find out that we’re funny if people laugh at what we say (hopefully when we mean to be humorous).  We find out we’re wise if people seriously consider our words.  We find out we’re caring when people are genuinely thankful for our thoughtfulness and we find out if we’re  cruel when people become angry with us.

Having said that, we also have to realize that others can bring their own baggage to our self-definition. Read the rest of this entry »